"Let's Fix the Kids!"

This audio cd, "Let's Fix the Kids!" should have been called "Let's Fix the Parents!" If you've ever heard of, read or taken a class by  Love and Logic you will recognize a lot of similar principles in this audio cd as well. I recently listened to it and learned that a lot of the struggles I have with Sydney are "fixable" by me shifting my approach, changing my perspective, and letting go of controlling the results she experiences in her life. I learned that I simply get to accept her as the person she is and love her the way she is and allow her to make her choices (within reason that is) and live with the consequences.  This is such a hard thing for me sometimes, especially when it comes to homework, because so many times I have felt like she doesn't care enough about the consequences... But I had to do it. I had to do something.... So I let go....

I finally gave in and tried a "point system" that I have been resisting for so long, due to my own laziness, and pre-warned her teacher that, worst case scenario, Sydney might not be turning in her homework for while. Lucky for me her teacher was totally supportive and when I expressed my frustrations she said "time goes by too fast not to enjoy your kids." (I've been so blessed this year to have such a great teacher for Sydney.) Needless to say it's been working! Sydney does her own homework and her grades are better. It has allowed me to be the loving mom that she deserves and needs.

I am not going to sit here and say that everything is perfect and peachy because it's not. But it has improved many areas of our lives and I know that by shifting my energy and approach I can't shift the situation.

I would recommend this audio cd to anyone. I think there is a book too!

I stole this photo from amazon.com....

It's not currently in stock on amazon.com but the slc library system has it.